Author Interview, Nathan Daniels

Interview #71, with writer/survivor, Nathan Daniels!

Describe yourself in 5 words:

Understanding, Respectful, Honest, Strong, Loving.

Share a short excerpt and blurb of your work (10-100 words):

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EXCERPT FROM SURVIVING THE FOURTH CYCLE – CHAPTER 32:

“I would fill my torso with long, dripping, lacerations by the dozens. Often, I’d do this while watching the disturbing reflection in my bathroom mirror. I remember Hailey sliding her hand up the front of my shirt one night; only to gasp… shut her eyes… and whisper:

“What did you do?”

On that particular occasion, I had cut myself twenty-eight times. Twice across the throat, and I was aware of myself doing it, even if it was a distant awareness.”

Share an excerpt of your favorite author’s work (10-100 words):

EXCERPT FROM STEPHEN KING’S ON WRITING: A MEMOIR OF THE CRAFT:

“Writing fiction, especially a long work of fiction, can be a difficult, lonely job; it’s like crossing the Atlantic Ocean in a bathtub. There’s plenty of opportunity for self-doubt.”

Comment on the writing versus publication process, in your experience:

For me, the writing comes very natural. I’ve been doing it most of my life and it’s a great creative outlet, as well as being an excellent form of therapy. The entire publication process is new to me, and understanding all the aspects is a challenge, but I enjoy learning more every day.

What is your definition of “good writing”?

Be it a textbook, memoir, or work of fiction the reader should never have to “push” their way through the text. Instead, you should feel “pulled” along by the words on the page.

Please share your #1 tip for writers:

Read something and write something EVERY day!

Your websites/blogs/etc:

You can visit me at… http://survivingthefourthcycle.com/index.html
Be my friend on Facebook… http://www.facebook.com/Nathan.daniels.56863
Follow me on Twitter… https://twitter.com/NathanDaniels75

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Much thanks to Nathan Daniels for stopping by — do visit Nathan’s Website for more info on him and his projects!

NATHAN’S BIO (in his own words):

My name is Nathan Daniels and I’m a dedicated father, stepfather, partner, and mental health awareness advocate. I’m also a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I have recently overcome a twenty-year battle with suicide, and I currently live with psychological disorders like… Agoraphobia, Social Anxiety, PTSD, Borderline Personality Disorder, OCD, and Depression.

I have a website dedicated to my experience with these widely misunderstood issues, and I want to share my story with as many people as possible and do my part in raising awareness as well as reducing the stigma associated with these ailments.

My website has 5 pages where you’ll find articles, interviews, photos, videos, quizzes, movies, poetry, books, blogs, and other websites devoted to mental health in general. I would absolutely love it, if you would just check it out… and perhaps pass it along.

Thank you so much :)

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Social Media Psychology

By Guest Blogger Marcela De Vivo, from Los Angeles

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Social Media Psychology

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Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

With various social media outlets constantly vying for our attention and requiring increasingly more time to maintain, our digital lives are taking over our real ones. Recent studies have shown that we now spend an average of 6.9 hours each month using social networks—double the amount of time since 2006. With smartphones, tablets and increasingly more apps and platforms through which to share your life digitally, it’s undeniable: social media is here to stay.

The boom of social media is endless and it has brought about many benefits to our everyday life, which include:

  • Networking
  • Finding like-minded people
  • Reconnecting with old friends
  • Sharing ideas and information quickly

Despite the fact that these benefits seem positive, they have also increased our dependence on social media as the primary form of interaction, possibly leading to some psychological issues. In fact, preliminary research has shown some disturbing mental health problems that arise from people who choose to connect mainly in the online world and fail to balance time spent on social sites with face-to-face interaction.

Communication can often become misrepresented or misconstrued as tone and facial expressions, cues that help the communicator convey the message, are often missing in online interactions. These unintended insults, miscommunications and slights can lead to poorer quality relationships and stress from the unintentional consequences of posting a comment, picture, etc. online.

Below are some of the major problems that come from prolonged exposure to social media and not enough real time interaction.

Virtual Relationships

Relationships, whether online or in person, can be difficult to manage; however, virtual relationships can often seem easier to maintain compared to relationships offline. A glib post or funny picture can generate masses of replies; all you have to do to reciprocate is to simply click a “like” button or “retweet” the message and your social obligation has been fulfilled. The time spent cultivating these superficial relationships takes so little effort, that it becomes increasingly easier to amass a large group of online friends. In fact, it has become so simple that some people will completely forgo making the effort of meeting people outside of the online world and immerse themselves in their virtual relationships.

The practice of focusing solely on virtual relationships pushes the limits on the depth of the connection. While this does not necessarily mean that validation through “likes” does not strengthen bonds between people, it hardly replaces an in-person conversation about a shared interest. The elements that have been previously relied on to add depth to a story or conversation, such as facial expressions, physical contact, gestures, etc., are now replaced with a 140-character limit that fails to convey the depths to the interaction.

In addition, without these cues, it is more difficult to discern the intentions or emotions of others when communicating, meaning that you are more susceptible to be misled, intentionally or otherwise. Communicating online is a completely different ability from speaking with a person in the physical world—a skill that, without use, can become rusty.

This is not to say that online relationships are all false or not worth instigating. Social networks were created to bring people with like-minded interests together, especially people who would not have, due to geographic or other constraints; however, the problem arises when online relationships supplant real life relationships.

Social and Self Esteem Issues

People are naturally competitive. Social networks, like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, allow us to see how others are doing—how they look, what activities they’ve participated in, where they have traveled—and naturally, we compare them to our own lives. While healthy competition is necessary for growth and development, some social media users forget that these online postings are merely snippets of a life being lived. Rarely is someone going to post about doing the laundry—and would likely be de-followed for posting something so mundane.

The competition created from a reliance on social networking is three fold:

Firstly, relying on the group mentality to determine which events in your life are or are not considered to be newsworthy can lead to self-censorship, insecurity and second-guessing oneself.

Secondly, constant comparison can create decreased feelings of self-worth and personal success. For example, studies have found that daily use of Facebook can make some people more prone to depression, anxiety and other psychological disorders.

And thirdly, an overuse of social media outlets can lead to an increase in narcissistic and antisocial behavior in teenagers and young adults.

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Image courtesy of Life Mental Health / Flickr.com

Addiction

A recent University of Chicago study found that social media outlets can be more addictive than known addictive substances such as cigarettes and alcohol. “Likes,” “retweets,” “repins,” and so on, cause a chemical release of endorphins in the brain, triggering a positive reinforcement between that activity and feeling good.

It is easy to see why addicts gravitate towards social media.The need of an addict is to calm any anxiety, perpetuating a particular behavior helps create a sense of control over their environment, or serve as a means of escaping the less than pleasant reality. Social media websites provide constant distraction, with never-ceasing updates in which a person can easily lose himself or herself. The constant reward and validation system only strengthen the neural pathways between social media activity and positive feelings.

Despite these potentially harmful mental health effects, social media is not the enemy. Used wisely, and in moderation, it can be an excellent tool to enhance your life and social networks. The key is balance. Contrary to spending all your time interacting online through social media with your “friends,” set up time to meet with them face-to-face and discuss current events in your lives. Begin to integrate real life socializing with online interactions, ensuring that you will be able to avoid the pitfalls of social media.

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Author Bio:

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Marcela De Vivo is a freelance writer from Los Angeles. Her background is in online marketing but she writes on a variety of topics, from technology and medicine to travel, music, gaming, and real estate. Social networking is one of her strong points so the emerging social media psychology field is something she finds fascinating.

For samples of her writing, visit her website http://marcela.co

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Poem by Babaji, Himalayan Saint

I came across this poem in an astrology book by James Braha (fantastic writings — check out his books online!).

I have many favorite lines from this poem. Two of my favorite lines can be inferred from this accompanying image.

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Anna Ignatieva - Demon and Angel, 2005]

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A Poem by Babaji, A Himalayan Saint

Love and serve all mankind. Assist everyone.
Be cheerful, be courteous.
Be a dynamo of irrepressible happiness.
See God and good in every face.
There is no saint without a past.
There is no sinner without a future.
Praise every soul.
If you cannot praise someone, let them pass out of your life.
Be original, be inventive.
Dare, dare, and then dare more.
Do not imitate. Stand on your own ground.
Do not lean on the borrowed staff of others.
Think your own thoughts. Be yourself.
All perfection and all virtues of the Deity are hidden inside you — reveal them.
The savior also is already within you – reveal Him.
Let his grace emancipate you. Let your life be that of a rose.
Through silence it speaks in the language of fragrance.

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Erotica and Pornography

Erotica and Porn: A polite request for clearer distinctions to be made — and how you can help :)

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I. EROTICA = PORN…NOT!

I recently came across a blog post titled Survival Tips for the Pornocalypse

The latest news is that books by (some) erotica and erotic romance writers are being filtered and excluded from Amazon’s “All Department” search feature.

The post also mentions that porn is what sold Kindles. Direct quote from the post:

“Porn. Face it, Jeff Bezos [founder of Amazon]. You owe the success of Kindle to me, and to every erotica writer out there making a living writing ‘porn’.”

But…what about the readers and writers who like erotica that’s more artistic and/or personal than pornographic?

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“Erotic” Photography by Phillip Ritchie

I host a (sporadic, but in-depth) series of erotic interviews on my 4:Play blog. Those writers write erotica but have their works categorized together with pornographers because there’s little differentiation in the marketplace.

I would really like to see the mainstream retailers come up with an elegant solution to make a clear genre separation between “erotica” and “porn”, when it comes to reading material. Especially in the era of digital publishing, where anyone can write and publish whatever they desire.

I’ll rely on a couple of images in the next section. Time needn’t be wasted showing the clear distinction between porn and erotica.

II. WHY PORN ISN’T THE SAME AS EROTICA

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The above picture is a “pornographic” picture.  Here is a link to the uncensored version of the image.

In the above image, I blanked out the explicit parts in order to showcase the point that commercial pornography is about explicitness (and making money via the customer’s arousal at the graphic content). This applies to pornographic literature/books as well.

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This is a lovely painting by Malcolm T. Liepk.

Doesn’t it make you want to slow down and let your senses take in the scene?

While there’s nudity, this image is more sensuous/erotic than pornographic.

Let’s go through a few word definitions.

(1) Sensuous: Relating to or affecting the senses rather than the intellect.

(2) Pornographic: Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal.

(3) Erotica: Erotica has high-art aspirations, differentiating it from commercial pornography. The value is in the story and how it’s told, not the number of explicit sex scenes.

There is a powerful difference between each of these terms. Society is not going to progress much in terms of intellect or sexuality if people are not educated or motivated enough to separate erotica from porn.

Quality erotica is a genre I’ll always be passionate about because I believe in the following quote:

“. . .it is vital for good erotica to be published, so that we can see for ourselves the difference between the life-enhancing, and the sordid and destructive.”

~ From Erotica: An Illustrated Anthology of Sexual Art and Literature, by Charlotte Hill and William Wallace

III. SO, WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP?

I sent the following email to BISG’s customer service. It is a polite request for clearer distinctions to be made with regards to erotica and porn.

BISG is the organization that compiles the BISAC Subject Codes List — the official genre categorization used by major companies and retailers. I have listed contact pages of various retailers at the end of this post.

Feel free to copy and paste so that you can be heard too :) It is the total sum of everyone’s efforts that really matters in the end.

EMAIL SUBJECT:
Request for Division between Erotica and Pornography

Dear Sir/Madam:

I would like to request for a separate genre category for “erotica” and “pornographic” books.

I am making this suggestion as the two genres are distinct from each other. Pornography focuses on explicitness and commercial value, while erotica focuses on artistic merit that isn’t defined solely by explicit content.

It is confusing and distressing for both readers and writers when genre categorization is unclear.

Separating “erotica” from “porn” would have a threefold effect:

(1) Readers of both genres get to FIND and BUY what they WANT,

(2) Retailers retain the customers of both genres, and

(3) Authors of both genres can continue to do what they do without having their books banned, missing from search results, or lumped with works that don’t serve the same readers.

Please refer to this blog post on Erotica Vs. Pornography:

http://jesscscott.wordpress.com/2013/05/03/erotica-pornography

Thank you for your time and consideration.

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[1] CONTACT: BISG (Book Industry Study Group)

BISG (compiles the official BISAC Codes List — the genre classification standard used by major companies and retailers):

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[2] CONTACT: RETAILERS

Amazon USA: www.amazon.com/gp/help/customer/contact-us

Amazon UK: www.amazon.co.uk/gp/help/customer/contact-us

Amazon KDP (authors): www.kdp.amazon.com/self-publishing/contact-us

Amazon (authors): www.authorcentral.amazon.com/gp/help/contact-us

Amazon CS (authors): www.createspace.com/Member/Support.do

Barnes and Noble: www.barnesandnoble.com/customerservice/contactus

Smashwords (click the customer support link at top of page): www.smashwords.com

iBookstore: ibookstore@apple.com

Kobo: www.kobo.com/help/customer-care-phones/

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[3] FURTHER READING (brought to you by JCS / jessINK)

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Art of Erotic Writing (promo eBook by Jess C Scott on erotic fiction — literature which deals openly and excitingly with sexuality as a part of human experience)

“Quality Erotica” Series (recommended books — fiction, non-fiction, poetry, erotic art)

Interviews with Erotica Writers (blog series)

Pornography Vs. Erotica (jessINK)

Media Mentions re: Erotic Writing (jessINK)


Introducing Screwpulp

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P.S. That’s a nice logo, isn’t it? :)

Screwpulp is run by Richard Billings, who has this to say of his start-up publishing company:

“I want to change a broken industry. It’s been broken for a while. I’m not just someone trying to start a business to make money.”

I liked following the updates on Screwpulp’s Facebook page, so I decided to enroll a couple of my eBooks in their catalog. I thought my parodies were a good fit so I submitted those for consideration.

Here’s a bit more information for you to get a better idea of Screwpulp.

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Mission Statement:

The glacial pace that the traditional publishing world moves is not beneficial to new authors or to readers. We believe we have a better way to move forward, a way that not only helps new authors, but a way that protects the readers as well.

Disclaimer:

Screwpulp believes in giving every author a voice. While we believe this wholeheartedly, we understand that some voices might be hard to listen to, or may even be insulting. Screwpulp is not responsible or liable for any author’s content. We do not endorse or condone any viewpoints contained within the works of an author’s book. If you find something offensive, don’t read it. The power is in your hands.

Recent Press:

Screwpulp won the Amazing Risk competition for first-time entrepreneurs, which earned the company $10,000 through Launch Memphis. It was also chosen to participate in Launch Memphis’ 48-Hour Launch last June and the 2013 Seed Hatchery.

http://www.memphisflyer.com/memphis/free-press/Content?oid=3343490

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Books are available for free download when they’re first up on the website (how the current system works). New features are being added all the time so signing up for newsletter/mail updates might be a good idea.

My eBook Literary Heroin: A Twilight Parody is on Screwpulp so you can go download a copy!

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You can also check out Lit Hero on my website jessINK (which includes a link to Screwpulp).

These are Screwpulp’s URLs on the web:

Website | Twitter | Facebook

Screwpulp’s Logo by Sleek Design:

Website | About


Happiness and Healing

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Picture from Dr. Michael Lau’s Website

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One of my worst chronic long-time health issues was dealing with acne (pictures here!). I went the natural route in the end because I was fed up of many of the over-the-counter type products which cumulatively seemed to be making the problem worse.

I’ve had high myopia for quite some time too. I’m quite averse to Lasik as I’ve never been comfortable with any surgical instruments going anywhere near my eyes (OMG). My myopia has dropped about a couple of diopters and I hope/aim to keep up with the progress. I take my time with that one since it has a lot to do with mental relaxation (and my mind can be “constantly zipping around” sometimes…). I occasionally post some updates on my improving eyesight naturally blog.

I first got in touch with Simon from Planet Mercury Channel due to our common interest in astrology. Earlier in the year he posted an extensive blog post titled Healing My Depression, Anxiety, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Adrenal Fatigue, Mercury Poisoning and Other Symptoms Using Natural Treatments.

It took him a long time to write it, so I sat down and took my time reading the post. I highly recommend reading the post as it is a lucid as well as polite refusal against conventional medicine (with my Aries rising, I can be a bit more “blunt” at times if I’m really irritated by…whatever). I also like the personal touch in the blog post (that’s something we all need more of the more technology advances).

I particularly liked these two paragraphs in Simon’s blog post:

“Natural healing is a multi-dimensional process. In my experience, as my body is healing, it is (inevitably) shifting my psychological and emotional status as well. For instance, crying has been as much part of my regular (emotional) detox routine as taking supplements or exercising. Again, holistic healing takes into account all parts of an individual, not just the physical body.

Also, true healing takes enormous amount of research, diligence, patience, understanding, hard work, asking questions, reading books, watching videos, doing some more research, and then some more research, and then some more…which is why most people rather not take healing into their own hands — it’s a lot of work!”

I like natural treatments because they don’t mess with the body’s internal system. Over the years, I’ve noticed that my physical body felt sluggish and fatigued whenever I was stressed out about something. I didn’t sleep well for many years too because of various things on my mind. I’ve been making some changes since late last year and I do feel a lot better mentally/emotionally as well as physically.

This is going to sound really “Virgo” of me, but I am an organic person. I like keeping things natural because there is no forced compromise that way. In both my personal life and creative life, I like doing things according to how I feel (i.e. whatever feels good/natural).

There have been times in the past where I could be pretty stressed out and miserable over 101 things at any given time.

Nowadays I’m a bit more go-with-the-flow. I was that way as a young kid right up to tween days. It’s good to return to that state without having to “force” or make myself feel more Zen-like while sacrificing intensity/spontaneity of emotion (for example). To me all four areas are important: mental, physical, emotional, spiritual. And since I’m very sexual I suppose that element of me falls into all four areas too (which perhaps explains why I’m very intense sometimes…oh well). What I’m trying to say is that internal balance/peace is important to me.

As Simon concludes towards the end of his blog post: “Happiness and healing are art forms.”

The nice thing is that they’re art forms open to all of us :)

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Thanks to Simon, I was informed that Dr. Joseph Mercola featured one of my quotes on his Facebook page recently:

“A fit, healthy body – that is the best fashion statement.”
– Jess C Scott, author

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SOME LINKS:

Simon’s happiness/healing blog post

’70 is the new 50!’ Martha Stewart on aging gracefully and ‘maintaining a tiny waist’

Happiness Quotes (BrainyQuote)


Author Interview, Charles Muir

Interview #70, with “compelled misfit” and horror/dark fantasy writer, Charles Muir!

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Describe yourself in 5 words:

Compelled. Hungry. Misfit. Persistent. Transmuting.

Share a short excerpt and blurb of your work (10-100 words):

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From my story in Hell Comes to Hollywood, “Alone and Palely Loitering”:

Knight had a friend, a writer, who soared to dazzling descriptive heights when it came to women’s breasts. Ample ones, especially. On paper, they quivered and beckoned as a succulent feast of edibles, their “creamy mounds” and “Hershey’s kisses” in contrast to Knight’s lens-like assessment, all dimensions appreciable in his worldview. The woman before him was more than a feast, she was a gateway to gluttony, her breasts densely spheroid with long, shadowed cleavage lines, mounted over the proud breastbone of a Valkyrie. And hips, high-velocity curves like a wildfire along twin hummocks, hips that blazed their own sexual lights against the bosom’s fearful symmetry. A tigress, Knight thought, like that Amazonian knockout in those cannibal horror films he watched with the sound down when his wife wasn’t around, he forgot the actress’s name just now.

“Um,” was all he said…

Share an excerpt of your favorite author’s work (10-100 words):

A bright light, like a hot, flickering, yellow star, burned through the ghostly mesh of his death dreams. He looked over and she was standing sideward to the fireplace, holding a burning brand outthrust toward it in her hand. Yet not a stick or twig; it was a scroll of tightly furled paper. And as the flame slowly slanted upward toward her hand, she deftly reversed it, taking it now by the charred end that had already been consumed and allowing the other to burn.

— Cornell Woolrich

Comment on the writing versus publication process, in your experience:

It took me five years to relearn how to write. I don’t mean writing as a craft, but as an act of putting words on paper without college-grafted perfectionism killing your first thoughts. With my stories I now try to emulate Ray Bradbury’s “seven drafts in seven days” approach (or seven sessions at the computer in my case) allowing my conscious thoughts to take over gradually in the last two or three drafts in a more natural arc. It’s fun and healthy for me, seeing as I’m a solitary doer and prefer to keep my studio closed off until I send out the end-product.

As for publishing, all my work has been in short fiction, which out of long habit I continue to submit individually to the small presses, hoping to find an indie publisher who will be interested in anthologizing my stories someday. This means the usual confetti of rejection letters and the sense of climbing a ladder with only two rungs. But I absolutely see the value of self-publishing these days. The technology is in place, the stigma is (rightly) going away, and emerging writers are becoming increasingly aware of the need to self-promote in a dismal marketplace.

As a side note, the Internet can be terrible for a neurotic person like me. There is a metrical side to seeing your work in print in the form of online feedback and statistics that didn’t exist when all you got was a check and contributor’s copy. Still, the Internet has given me relationships and opportunities I never would have dreamed of otherwise, and is giving artists a chance to get their work out there despite the stagnant commercialism and elitism of big publishing.

What is your definition of “good writing”?

I personally prefer narration that transforms the mundane into the strange, even nightmarish. It wakes you up for a moment. I remember very little about even crucial plot points, but I’ll recall a certain shadow, or a flight of stairs, or the way a character resembles a puppet for just an instant. That transformative vision is what gets me as close to the writer’s mind as I will ever get.

Please share your #1 tip for writers:

You will get better if you love what you do, because you will do it a lot and for as long as it takes to achieve the desired effect.

Your websites/blogs/etc:

My personal website: www.charlesaustinmuir.com

My article on “How to Submit Short Fiction for Publication”: http://tinyurl.com/submittingshortfiction

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Much thanks to Charles Muir for stopping by — do visit Charle’s Website for more info on him and his projects!

CHARLE’S BIO (in his own words):

I’m a writer, primarily in the horror genre. I’ve appeared most recently in the U.K. magazine, Morpheus Tales, and the Stoker-nominated horror anthology, Hell Comes to Hollywood.

I was born on the Oregon Coast but have lived all my life in Portland.

I’ve written psychological horror, splatterpunk, dark fantasy, flash fiction, slipstream, squishy-soft sf, and experimental. Some of my favorite themes include alienation, disease, hunger and metamorphosis.

My aim is to bend reality, skew the mundane, and broadcast my personal horrors. At the same time I don’t take myself too seriously.

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