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A Note About…Mystery Man

Some of you may have noticed that I have been considerably slower this year with writing, blogging, and general social media activities.

The reasons are both personal and professional. On the personal level, I got into a challenging (i.e. long distance) yet fulfilling relationship with Mystery Man at the end of 2012. This has had a profound influence on my outlook on life.

Professionally, as an independent publisher, a number of my books in the “erotica” or “erotic fiction” genre have been systematically banned or deleted by retailers because they deem the content obscene or offensive. I have exhausted all avenues to educate them on the differences between porn and quality sexual literature, but to no avail. Nonetheless I will continue to advocate for recognition of this literary genre through my website and blog articles. Stay tuned for an upcoming feature with expert opinions of several (very interesting) guest contributors.

At the same time, I continue to have divergent interests — most notably in my intense interest in both the good and evil aspects of human nature. Thus I am likely to continue working in the psychological thriller genre, and plan out some material in the “contemporary love stories / women’s fiction” genre (I am likely to use a new pen name for this because the tone of the projects will be quite different from my earlier material). On the non-fiction side, there are many more topics I’d like to cover with socio-political blogging, an activity which helps keep my thoughts — and prose — sharp, focused and concise.

I would like to thank everyone who has emailed me / read my work / been following me on social media over the years. I have always liked listening to the personal stories people share as it continually enriches my outlook on life and human relationships. This, along with my own personal experiences, is bound to influence my upcoming projects (as well as those on the back burner).

I will end this post with the wise words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, who defined success in a simple life well lived as:

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and affection of children; to learn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a little bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

P.S. The irony (or “poetic justice”) is that I met Mystery Man during a writing event discussing: Sexuality in Literature! I offer my eternal thanks and gratitude to The Arts House for organising the event(s) in the first place…

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Avatars of me and Mystery Man created via Avachara.


Erotic and Non-Erotic Updates

Just a short note about My Inner Goddess (my recently completed Fifty Shades of Grey parody):

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Cover Design by jessINK | Stock photo by dpaint

Short Summary:

When literature student Bell-Ana Steale goes to interview the dazzlingly rich/powerful/handsome Christiano Gaynaldo (i.e. “Big G”), she encounters an Edward Cullenesque obsessive lover who she instantly desires as Her Man.

Cool, cunning, and intelligently amusing, My Inner Goddess is a devious satire that explores how far we’re willing to go to answer the question: Can love really conquer all?

Excerpt:

I inhale his sexy Christiano smell.

And he brings out that gray tie of his that he’s always wearing or has nearby…and wraps it around my neck.

Right now? my inner goddess manages to weakly mumble. Here? OK…

I watch as he pulls both ends of the tie–OMG!–tighter and tighter and tighter.

I flush. This is intense.

More Info: http://jessINK.com/fiftyshades.htm

Review Copies Available (eBook): Send me an email if you’d like to read/review My Inner Goddess ;) [missfeyATgmailDOTcom]

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The above is a promotional freebie eBook on “The Art of Erotic Writing” (where I talk about the themes and inspirations behind my works of erotic fiction.

‘Erotic fiction’ here refers to literature which deals openly and excitingly with sexuality as a part of human experience.

More Info: http://www.jessINK.com/erotic_writing.htm

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OTHER NEWS:

[1] I’ll be working on some genre series in 2013 to gain a wider readership. I’m looking forward to exploring deviant/taboo themes in the crime fiction vein (my type of erotic fiction will always be too complex to categorize neatly). I have some series outlined so it’s mostly a matter of sitting down and completing the project(s). While they won’t be in the “erotica” genre, I don’t intend to sanitize it too much either (I like things raw and realistic). I’ll certainly keep in mind the loyal readers/customers who’ve enjoyed my early work + provocative material ;)

[2] I’m about halfway through with editing The Darker Side of Life (elven trilogy book02).

[3] I’ve been invited to be on a couple of panels for Singapore Writers Festival 2012 (November ’12). More info soon (organizers are currently confirming the other authors involved).


Erotic Books (Non-Fiction)

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* This post is part of a short series:

QUALITY EROTICA (aka “Jess’s Erotic Stash”)

PART 1: Introduction + Erotic Art Books
PART 2: Erotic Books (Non-Fiction)
PART 3: Erotic Poetry
PART 4: Erotic Books (Fiction)
PART 5: More on Love/Sex/Relationships

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Jess’s erotic stash / “sex education”

[PART 2: Erotic Books / Non-Fiction]

The art books (in Part I) were nicely complemented with some non-fiction texts. I just so happen to have exactly five erotic art books and five non-fiction books on sex, at the moment.

These non-fiction books provided me with a lot of “valuable information” re: subconscious desires and that kind of stuff. I have a love for hidden things in life (I’ve always had an interest in what lies under the surface, re: the things that matter).

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6. The Perfumed Garden | Amazon.com

Blurb:

The great English explorer and author Richard F. Burton offers this translation of a work on sexuality, female sexuality in particular. Selected contents: Concerning women who deserve to be praised; About women who are to be held in contempt; Concerning everything that is favorable to the act of coition;  Prescriptions for increasing the dimensions of small members, and for making them splendid. This book contains much erotic poetry.

Excerpt:

The Master of the Universe has bestowed upon them the empire of seduction; all men, weak or strong, are subjected to the weakness for the love of woman.

(The Perfumed Garden, Page 75)

Very well-known book that I’ve yet to read in its entirety.

Link: Amazon.com

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7. The Hite Report on Male Sexuality | Amazon.com

Blurb:

Over 7,000 men, ages thirteen to ninety-seven, speak out about: What they think of women — as wives, lovers, and friends; why a majority of men like marriage but are not faithful; what they think about love — and why they often distrust it; how they feel about giving women clitoral stimulation; why they often masturbate even with a regular sex life…and more.

Excerpt:

“The only time I am anxious that I am not ‘man enough’ (hate that juvenile, macho expression!) is when I have inexplicably lost my hard-on and cannot continue. What the hell happened? I ask myself. How come? How delicately am I balanced, anyway? It is frustrating and embarrassing. It makes me feel like I am a little helpless boy, guilty usually. I feel ashamed.” (Page 399)

Another very well-known book. I read both Hite reports (on male and female sexuality) — I enjoyed the male one a lot more. That’s not to say that the female one was not good. I just found the male one a lot more ‘illuminating’ ^^.

Link: Amazon.com

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8. Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sextrology | Amazon.com

Blurb:

In this funny, insightful, and practical guide, Megan Skinner, astrologist extraordinaire, explains how to use the stars to find the perfect sexual mate. She profiles the sexual traits of each of the 12 signs, then shows every combination of them and what to expect in bed.

• Ideal for anyone interested in astrology
• Easy to use, encyclopedic in content
• Includes coverage of Sun signs and Moon signs
• Discusses the influence of each planet and house on the sexual dynamics of each sign and each couple

Excerpt:

Venus and Mars connections are all about your sexual chemistry — Venus is the “feminine” aspect of love, representing your deeper sexual and romantic needs. Mars is the “masculine” aspect of love, representing your most primal sexual desires. (Chapter 10)

A good INTRODUCTORY text to the subject of sexual astrology.

On a slightly more advanced level, I’m a Venus conjunct Pluto in Scorpio 8th house (which kind of explains this entire series of blog posts…).

Links: Amazon.com | Astro.com

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9. The Joy of Sex | Amazon.com

Blurb:

An international bestseller since it was first published in 1972, this updated edition brings this imaginative, uninhibited guide to lovemaking and sex to a whole new generation. It has been revised in such a way to retain Dr. Comfort’s original, revelatory advice while making it appropriate for the 21st century (balances responsibility with the importance of happy and relaxed sexuality in people’s lives). The drawings capture in full, frank detail the intimacy of the act of love.

Excerpt:

Real sex is the sort our culture and most mass media propaganda don’t recognize: not that intercourse, or masturbation, or genital kisses aren’t real sex, but some other things are real sex too, which people need, but which don’t excite our time and age. . .

(The Joy of Sex: “Appetizers” / Page 57)

Also a very well-known book. I absolutely adore the 80 very nicely done line illustrations (realistic, simple and very sensuous/intimate).

Link: Amazon.com

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10. The Intimate Sex Lives of Famous People | Amazon.com

Blurb:

From the indefatigable Wallace family, authors of The Book of Lists and The People’s Almanac series (New York Times bestsellers that sold over eight million copies internationally), came 1981’s The Intimate Sex Lives of Famous People.

This compelling bestseller that kept many a reader up at night with its two hundred revealing profiles and three hundred rare photos just got better with a dozen new entries on the nocturnal fascinations of the iconic Tupac Shakur, Carlos Casteneda, Jim Morrison, Nico, Wilt Chamberlain, Ayn Rand, Kurt Cobain, Princess Diana, Aleister Crowley, Anna Nicole Smith, Michael Hutchence, and Malcolm X.

Excerpt:

“I loved my mother like a lover,” Lawrence admitted after her death in 1910. . .Always thin and consumpive, never particularly virile, with tousled hair, a “flaming” red beard, and eyes “intense as blue stars,” Lawrence attracted by the force of his personality a succession of wealthy, titled patronesses. “Income on two legs” he called these women, who subscribed to the Lawrencean sexual mystique and subsidized his nomadic lifestyle.
(Prodigal Son: D. H. Lawrence, Page 190)

This book is a real riot. I’ve read many of the profiles and have yet to be disappointed!

Link: Amazon.com

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QUALITY EROTICA (aka “Jess’s Erotic Stash”)

PART 1: Introduction + Erotic Art Books
PART 2: Erotic Books (Non-Fiction)
PART 3: Erotic Poetry
PART 4: Erotic Books (Fiction)
PART 5: More on Love/Sex/Relationships

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Erotic Books: Poetry

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* This post is part of a short series:

QUALITY EROTICA (aka “Jess’s Erotic Stash”)

PART 1: Introduction + Erotic Art Books
PART 2: Erotic Books (Non-Fiction)
PART 3: Erotic Poetry
PART 4: Erotic Books (Fiction)
PART 5: More on Love/Sex/Relationships

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Jess’s erotic stash / “sex education”

[PART 3: Erotic Books / Poetry]

I’ve loved poetry since a really long time ago (of all subject matter and styles). It combines succinctness with wisdom/clarity, beauty with spirituality, so on and so forth. What’s there not to like?

AND when the topic is about sex or erotic love…

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11. Erotic Love Poems of Greece and Rome | Amazon.com

Blurb:

A taste of amour in the ancient world-newly translated. From the famous erotic poetry of Sappho to love scenes from Homer’s The Iliad, as well as works from such eminent Roman poets as Virgil and Catullus, this enthralling collection taps into a range of passionate, timeless emotions.

Excerpt:

Seeing someone incredibly beautiful can leave the timid observer speechless. So it was twenty-six centuries ago. In this poem, Sappho describes what she experienced when, from a distance, she saw a young man sitting close to the young woman she loved.

(Tongue-Tied, Page 27)

The beauty of ancient Greek/Roman culture and mythology are things I’ll never get tired of. A very concise + tasteful book.

Link: Amazon.com

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12. Love Poems from the Japanese (Shambhala Library) | Amazon.com

Blurb:

Drawn from classical, medieval, and modern sources — including the imperial collections of the Manyoshu and Kokinshu — the poems in this collection are some of the greatest love poems from the Japanese tradition. The poems range in tone from the spiritual longing of an isolated monk to the erotic ecstasy of a court princess — but share the extraordinary simplicity and luminosity of language that marks Kenneth Rexroth’s (the translator’s) verse style.

Excerpt:

Since “the pillow knows all”
we slept without a pillow.
Still my reputation
reaches to the skies
like a dust storm.

(Lady Ise / Page 43)

This is the most expensive of all the poetry books here (bought from Singapore at Kinokuniya a long time ago — I won some book vouchers). Money well spent. It’s a perfect book — nothing superfluous.

Link: Amazon.com

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13. The Complete Poems of Emily Dickinson | Amazon.com

Blurb:

Though generally overlooked during her lifetime, Emily Dickinson’s poetry has achieved acclaim due to her experiments in prosody, her tragic vision and the range of her emotional and intellectual explorations.

Excerpt:

Wild nights! Wild nights!
Were I with thee
Wild nights should be
Our luxury!

Futile the winds
To a heart in port, –
Done with the compass,
Done with the chart.

Rowing in Eden!
Ah! the sea!
Might I but moor
To-night in thee!

(XXV, Emily Dickinson)

Wow, Emily Dickinson. A poet before her time, I think (with regards to style / mode of expression). But with reading her poetry, what I remembered the most was how she captured the sentiments/moments of our existence. I got this at the same time as the Japanese poetry book above, by the way.

Link: Amazon.com

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14. Baudelaire | Amazon.com

Blurb:

Modern poetry begins with Charles Baudelaire (1821-67), who employed his unequalled technical mastery to create the shadowy, desperately dramatic urban landscape — populated by the addicted and the damned — which so compellingly mirrors our modern condition. Deeply though darkly spiritual, titanic in the changes he wrought, Baudelaire looms over all the work, great and small, created in his wake.

Excerpt:

Eyes glowing like an angel’s
I’ll come back to your bed
and reach for you from the shadows:
you won’t hear a thing.

(“Incubus” / Page 102)

Baudelaire was a French poet, essayist, art critic, and pioneering translator of Edgar Allan Poe (!).

Links: Amazon.com | Wikipedia

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15. Erotic Poems | Amazon.com

Blurb:

These poems, selected from most of the cultures and histories of world literature, provide magnificent witness to the fact that love is as much an act of the imagination as it is of the body. From fourth-century Li Ch’ung’s “Parody of a Lover” to John Betmeman’s “Late-Flowering Lust,” they re-create, through the revelations of language, that experience of the erotic. Other poets include Theodore Roethke, Robert Graves, Octavio Paz, Joseph Brodsky, Sylvia Plath, Frederico Garcia Lorca, Percy Bysshe Shelley, and many others.

Excerpt:

…but I won’t call
Her ‘beautiful’. She has one fatal fault –
No sex-appeal: there’s not a grain of salt
In that big dish to stir the appetite.

(“Many Think Quintia’s Beautiful,” by Gaius Valerius Catullus)

Never know what I might find in this eclectic collection ;)

Link: Amazon.com

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QUALITY EROTICA (aka “Jess’s Erotic Stash”)

PART 1: Introduction + Erotic Art Books
PART 2: Erotic Books (Non-Fiction)
PART 3: Erotic Poetry
PART 4: Erotic Books (Fiction)
PART 5: More on Love/Sex/Relationships

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Author Interview, Lianne Simon

Interview #63, with author of “Confessions of a Teenage Hermaphrodite”: Lianne Simon!

Describe yourself in 5 words:

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Christian housewife writing about intersex.

Share a short excerpt and blurb of your work (10-100 words):

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From Confessions of a Teenage Hermaphrodite:

Blurb: Jamie was born with a testis, an ovary, and a pixie face. He could be a boy after minor surgery and a few years on testosterone. That’s what his parents always say, but he sees an elfin princess in the mirror. To become the man his parents expect, Jamie must leave behind a little girl’s dreams.

Excerpt: “I’m sorry, Jameson. Are you okay?” Dad knelt down and hugged his little princess tight, but the disappointment in his eyes hurt her worse than the ball had.

Share an excerpt of your favorite author’s work (10-100 words):

“I look down the lonely, silent vista of my coming years, whose niches are filled not with joy, but quiet resignation—and I see beyond the calm shores of Rest, where, if faithful here, you and I may clasp hands forever.”

Macaria, by Augusta Jane Evans

Comment on the writing versus publication process, in your experience:

Writing is much like motherhood. A fertile seed within you grows — a life of its own. The newborn cannot survive without your tender care and patient attention. Only later will you send it out into the world. But between writing and publication lies the agony of childbirth — finding an agent or a publisher — when all you care about is giving birth to your child.

I love the analogy :) What is your definition of “good writing”?

Good writing conveys just enough of the author’s imagination to set the reader’s on fire.

Sweet! Please share your #1 tip for writers:

Your heart, your life blood — make it flow into your characters’ veins. That makes you vulnerable, but it can also make your characters memorable.

Yes, indeed. Your websites/blogs/etc:

www.liannesimon.com

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Much thanks to Lianne for stopping by — do visit her website for more info about her and her experiences with writing/publishing. She has very detailed posts on book cover designs too!


Author Interview, Intense Restraint

Interview #62, with the inquisitive/married/middle-aged author of Intense Restraint!

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[Image from Scribido Magazine]

There’s a recently-published crime drama / psychological thriller titled Intense Restraint, a book that’s published anonymously. Read till the end to see why the author would like to remain “Anonymous” ;)

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Describe yourself in 5 words:

Quiet, industrious, married, middle-aged, inquisitive.

Share a short excerpt and blurb of your work (10-100 words):

Intense Restraint

Excerpt (from Intense Restraint): “I awoke in a dark room and in an unfamiliar bed. My wrists were handcuffed and my ankles were in leg irons. My heart began beating in rapid spurts, and adrenaline surged through my system as I tested my restraints and discovered they held me securely. The only light was emitted by a radio alarm clock. The time was 2 p.m. I had been asleep for a long time.”

Blurb: Steven’s hiking trip turns into a disaster when he is abducted by a grief-stricken amateur boxer whose mind has temporarily lost its grip on reality. Steven endures a horrifying ordeal as he simultaneously plans his escape and attempts to help his abductor find his way back to normalcy.

Share an excerpt of your favorite author’s work (10-100 words):

Fyodor Dostoevsky: “Man is fond of counting his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.”

I just chanced upon that quote the other day ;)! Comment on the writing versus publication process, in your experience:

I’m very glad for websites where authors can review each other’s work and provide helpful comments. The one I used is TheNextBigWriter.com. I received lots of good advice on each chapter. The publication process was easy for me. I published the book via CreateSpace.com, a subsidiary of Amazon.com. I used their online tools for preparing the book for publication, including cover design. I was surprised and pleased to learn that the cost of publication in this manner is extremely low. Once the book was approved for publication by CreateSpace, I was able to do the additional work to make it available for the Kindle Reader. The book is also available on Amazon as a paperback.

What is your definition of “good writing”?

Good writing affects us profoundly, changes us, enlightens us, helps us live more noble lives.

Agreed. Please share your #1 tip for writers:

When I finish a chapter and need to take a break from sitting in front of the computer, I like to go on long walks and reflect on the plot and the characters, the latest developments in the story and the implications of those developments. As I walk along very often I get insights into what should happen next — what conversations should occur, what events will propel the story along. So, my tip is to try this technique of going on long walks.

Oh yes, they’re a good antidote to writer’s block! Your websites/blogs/etc:

Intense Restraint on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Intense-Restraint-ebook/dp/B00865T4JE/

I wrote my book as an anonymous author. I’m not ready for my co-workers to know that I wrote a book about a young man being abducted by another man! So, I don’t have a website that publicizes my writing.

Maybe I will create one sometime in the future…

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Much thanks to the author of Intense Restraint for stopping by! You may check out Intense Restraint on Amazon :)


The Asexual Christian Woman

By Guest Blogger Claudia C (Harleyq2)

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The Asexual Christian Woman

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["Eve & Apple" | Image from DesktopNexus (Artist: Chris Ortega)]

Sex and religion are like oil and water. No matter how hard one attempts to seamlessly blend the two, it just does not want to commingle. This is the curious case of the separation of sexuality and religion but more specifically Christian women’s sexuality and religion.

“[T]hy lips are like a thread of scarlet…. They neck is like the tower of David…. Thy two breasts are like two young roes (fawns)…thou has ravished my heart with one of thine eyes….”

The Song of Solomon 4:4-9.

The only place in the Bible that truly celebrates a woman’s sexuality is the Song of Solomon and at times it is a bewilderment how that those sensuous writings were allowed in the Holy Book. One can just image a great debate between the religious men of that era about the importance and decency of such language and imagery in the Bible. It is the language of love, admiration, and dear one say sexual desire that describe God’s creation-the woman. Since Eve’s apple biting indiscretion in the Garden of Eden, her God-given anatomy and physiology has become a thing of disdain, at least in public, while being lusted after in private. Centuries of sexual debauchery have been the open secret of many religious men who proudly and publicly supported the desexualization, vilification, and condemnation of the mere essence of womanhood. However, this God created ‘evil’ was only evil until these religious God-fearing men woke up with an erected itch to scratch. Oh, the irony of double standard.

Even though it has been ages since the scarlet letter, the tide for Christian women has stayed the same. It is appropriate to expect that those professing Christianity or those having other conservative religious beliefs would expect some decency from their members; however, the issue is beyond the normal expectations but an unwavering sense that Christian women should be asexual until needed. The hypocrites who attempt to rule female sexuality are usually the biggest perpetrators of defiling or misusing women in the privacy of the marital and extramarital bed. The Popes of old were known to have whores and lovers. Some religious Middle Eastern men are known to take multiple young wives; some communities have gone as far as to deform women by cutting away their ‘evil parts’ until it is time for her husband to take his pleasure. The pastors are falling from grace with some form of adultery. The most egregious is now to equate a women using birth control (no distinction if she is married or single) as whores.

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Women in all their glory were created good; actually very good. However, due to religious fear or should one say religious men’s fear that they are not able to control their own desires, they therefore project their guilt and insecurities on the fairer sex whom God created as ‘very good.’ Christian women have the right to be as sexual as their Christian husbands. They have the right to enjoy the same feelings and desires as the heads of the household. They have a right to enjoy their own sexuality and freely share it with their husbands without the fear of the wrath of God or a bunch of very horny men. The thing is sex and religion can blend and it can be done quite well. This only happens when a very secure Christian man and woman decides to become “one flesh” (Gen 2: 24).

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Author Bio:

Claudia C (Harleyq2) is a 30-something Christian woman, who has always had questions about God, Christianity and more recently singlehood. She has always enjoyed writing and finds blogging to be a great way to share her unedited and sometimes non-mainstream views from a Christian single point of view. She blogs at http://singlechristanwomen.wordpress.com

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Thanks for sharing your views, Claudia :)!

Here are a couple of Claudia’s past blog posts readers might want to check out (all of which feature clear logic + a cool rationality):

(1) The Down-low of Gay and Hiding talks about how the activities of down-low individuals affect their partners.

(2) Sexual Test Drive makes the differentiation between sex and intimacy.

– Jess C Scott / jessINK


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